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How to Makeover Your Mindset


Photo by Cathryn Lavery

Photo by Cathryn Lavery


Life & Relationship Coach, Lisa Panos, recently walked us through how to Makeover our Mindset in a recent workshop and we just had to share this with you. It was way too good to keep to ourselves!

Far too many of us are going through life doing all the things we think we should be doing, but something still isn’t working. Here are a few tools that can help you get into the mindset that you CAN change your life and you CAN create a life you love.

Each of us is born as our most authentic selves and as we grow up, we become influenced by other people, slowly developing into our social selves. These social selves are the people we think we need to become in order to fit into society. These two selves are rarely the same, but by shifting our mindset, we can become closer to our authentic selves.

Each of us has about 80,000 thoughts a day and upwards of 85% of them are negative. Stopping these negative thoughts in their tracks will allow us to break patterns that aren’t working for us and allow us to change our lives. Changing our mindset is a skill just like any other. It won’t happen instantaneously, but with practice, it will become easier.

Here’s how to makeover your mindset:

  • Recognize that circumstances give way to our thoughts, feelings, and actions that lead to outcomes

  • Every outcome in our lives can be traced to thoughts, not circumstances

  • Believe that you can make and change because you get to choose how you react  

  1. Become aware of your thoughts at the moment.

  2. Name them, make it personalized so when the feeling comes up it has a name.

  3. Use a code word out loud to stop the thought in its track.

  4. Question whether it’s true.

  5. Turn it around.

 These steps are just the starting point of this process. You have to practice. You’re not used to doing this. We’re basically training our brains until it becomes second nature.

For more information on this topic and so many more, check out Lisa’s blog, or pick up her book, Big Girl Pants. You won’t regret spending one minute learning from this incredible coach.

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